The Measuring Stick:

Shalom Aaron,

I am not much of a seperatist or specializer, both of which are
required for membership in a "vaad" If you feel harrassed by a
peticular group of standard makers and enforcers. It is because they
consider you to be a member subject to their rules and standards.
All groups are allowed to self govern, if you disagree with the
rules of a paticular group of which you are a member, consider
resigning or disassociating from then and joining a group that
grants you the freedom you desire.

As for your other question, there are no pits without exits,
problems without solutions or circumstances without choices that led
you to there and others that will lead you elsewhere from there.
My answer to your question would be: If you are unhappy with your
circumstances and associations, then determine what it is that you
would be happy with, the steps neccessary to accomplish what you
wish for, then make the changes neccessary for your life to be the
one that you wish to live.

Confusion is remedied by focusing on one thing at a time and making
it what you want or letting it go. All the solutions and barriers
are within you, not "out there" What do you want in each area of
your life that does not include changing other people? Make a list
and make some changes and remember your life is your fault or your
pleasure and glory. You cannot have the power of choice to change
when you give away your responsibility. Be able to respond
successfully, harmoniously, lovingly in all circumstances.

Regards,

David

I am not talking about you personally, rather what you refer to as
the 'vaad' or whatever you want to call it. I call it harrassment.
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> Secondly, let me make for you another analogy that I once
expressed more privately, but perhaps this will refresh your
memory.
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> Consider a situation where a bunch of hooligans would throw some
guy into a pit in the ground and then guard the hole and
occasionally throw some dirt down on him or a other similar pranks
etc.
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> Then they would ask him one day, why are you dirty? Why don't
you change your clothes? Why do you spend all of your time in that
pit? As if it was his fault that they were holding him prisoner and
harrassing him.
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> Kapische?